PEACE WITHIN

Has anybody ever done you or somebody you love wrong? Now, let us flip that question around. Have you ever done somebody wrong in your lifetime? When somebody does you wrong, how do you respond? Do you get angry or resentful, or are you forgiving and understanding? If you have done somebody wrong, how did you expect them to react?

These are all questions we should be asking ourselves if we do not want anyone living rent-free in our minds.

It’s all about reflecting deeply – numerous instances come to mind where I felt wronged or witnessed harm befall a family member. Conversely, if I delve even further, I can recall occasions where I wronged others. One memory that stands out prominently involves the individual connected to the accident that claimed Alyssa’s life—an incident I’ve recounted in previous blogs. This person not only lied but audaciously sued Alyssa’s grieving family. Adding a layer of complexity, he is our first cousin’s husband. Could one easily erase such a betrayal from memory? Can forgiveness be extended to a family member who, in the aftermath of a tragedy, chooses to sue for personal gain? These questions linger, challenging the very essence of forgiveness and the resilience of familial bonds.

Reflections on Imperfection:

I vividly recall a moment during the early stages of Amy’s eating disorder when her behavior shifted dramatically. Concerned, I questioned her repeatedly, unsure of the underlying issues. At one point, frustrated and without much thought, I asked if she was on drugs, convinced she was seeking attention. To my surprise, she revealed, “No, I am not on drugs. I believe I have an eating disorder.” My insensitive response hurt her deeply, and while she doesn’t bring it up today, I know my words left scars.

However, my own shortcomings in our relationship were apparent. Amy had concealed crucial aspects of her struggle—lying about insulin, blood sugar control, vomiting, and using diet pills. Our connection strained under the weight of deception, yet I realized my response was unjust. Forgiving her became imperative for both her recovery and our relationship’s restoration.

At the time of reflecting on my past, it’s easy to dwell on perceived wrongs inflicted upon me. Still, it’s crucial to acknowledge my own transgressions. Holding onto past grievances prevents peace and hinders personal growth. Accepting imperfections, forgiving others, and seeking forgiveness are vital steps toward inner peace and spiritual well-being. After all, none of us are exempt from making mistakes, and in the eyes of God, we are all sinners.

The Bible tells us many times about forgiving and judging others.

Ephesians 4:32 says, Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Matthew 6:14 says, For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

Colossians 3:13 says, Bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Luke 6:37 says, Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven.

Letting Go of Resentment and Embracing Forgiveness:

Numerous people I know seem to carry a lingering resentment, holding onto past grievances and recalling negatives while ignoring positives. Despite claiming forgiveness, they readily share old grievances. Living in the past prevents a peaceful life. Amy could mention my past drinking issues, and I could bring up her eating disorder, but dwelling on such history breeds anger and resentment.

God never intended us to live in the shadows of our pasts. Focusing on bygone negatives fuels bitterness, hindering peace. Despite enduring deep hurts, I must acknowledge my capacity to inflict pain on others. We are all human, capable of both giving and receiving hurt. Forgiveness, an essential step toward inner peace, evicts negative influences from our minds.

To live peacefully in this life – it’s crucial to let go of grudges and cherish positive memories. Negative people shouldn’t dictate our emotional state. I’ve experienced the transformative power of counseling, shedding negative thoughts and embracing gratitude for loved ones. Remember, you alone hold the key to your peace. Neither wealth nor possessions guarantee it; true peace stems from within. Seek professional help if necessary; there’s no shame in consulting a counselor. In essence, you are the architect of your tranquility.

Final Words:

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